“50 years in marriage”, by the man who did it
On their wedding day Paul Newman wrote a letter to his wife, Joanne Woodword, where he shared his thoughts on their future marriage, that turned out to last as long as 50 years.
Paul Leonard Newman (January 26, 1925 – September 26, 2008) was an American actor, film director, entrepreneur, professional racing driver and team owner; he was also an environmentalist, liberal social activist and philanthropist. Newman was married to actress Joanne Woodward from 1958 until his death. The long-lasting marriage of Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward was one of the most famous marriages in Hollywood. They celebrated their Golden Anniversary in January 2008.
Here is a part of that letter, that might help you understand what kept their union so strong throughout all those years…
Paul Newman’s letter to his wife on their wedding day:
“Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the Art of Marriage: The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner”.